Hard time

[Hightower]

I moved into my new house a week last Friday, and out of my parents. But I'm having a real hard time getting to grips with it all. I feel a bit down to be honest when I should be over the moon at having my own place.

 

What the hell is wrong with me?!

[chrbb]

It's a huge change in your life, it's bound to feel odd. Suddenly you're in a place on your own maybe missing the hustle and bustle of the family home, responsible for a house and all the paraphernalia that goes with it, with a feeling of anti-climax because you've finally moved in. It'll wear off don't worry:)

 

Don't forget to visit home for the odd meal:) your parents might be missing you as well.

[kmount]

Completely normal, it takes time to get used to it and as chrbb says go and heckle your parents for the odd meal, invite friends round and enjoy making a mess without anyone going off at you!

[stevenlong1985]

Dude! Have fun and enjoy your Freedom! have your mates round! Have parties, rock band nights! films nights! eat cold pizza or a curry the next morning!

 

You got nothing too lose!

[3s-gtech]

I moved out of my parents' about five months ago - took a little getting used to but we're there now, and looking to move again! Many things you'll need can be done automatically to save hassle and stress, I don't have to open any bills as they are all on direct debit now, and the place runs itself. Bit of maintenance etc is all part of the job

 

Good luck!

[Tricky_Dicky]

I totally get where you are coming from. It's wierd being on your own and not being able to just pop down stairs and say hi to people, also I imagine you are missing the things that your parents used to do automatically for you and you never realised. (The Magic washing basket in my case).

Give it a few months and it will be great and you will probably end up with a stronger relationship with your parents because the time you do see them is time just to see them and not first thing in the morning when you are tired and grumpy.

I can highly recommend getting some mates round for LAN parties/Xbox/Poker night.

Rich

[sidewinder]

If you havent had a massive party yet, DO IT. You'll feel much better then

 

Id give anything to move out of my parents now, once you've left and come back its doubly annoying living there

[witch]

Perfectly normal to feel that way -you are just a bit shocked and stunned that you are on your own and a 'responsible adult'!

 

It'll pass - but (speaking as a parent) DO go back and see your parents often - they will be missing you too

[sippo]

I remember when I first moved out, was immense especially if you're single! I'd have the boys round, a few beers, pizza...

 

Of course its going to be 'scary' at first especially with all the responsibilities but its all about the freedom!

[Hightower]

Cheers for all the 'heads up' - I know I'll get used to it, and I hate wishing my life away but I just wish I was 'okay' with it all now.

 

I'm a big eater (you won't get bigger eaters than me!) but this weekend I've had absolutely no appetite. I've lost a stone in the past week, and I only ate half a pot noodle on saturday and a steak slice yesterday.

[SimpleSi]

As others have said - perfectly normal feeling.

 

For the first few weeks, just get a little plan together of having people round/going out with other people to places

 

And remember guests will not appreciate having to walk over dishes/left over pizza boxes whent hey arrive

 

regards

 

Simon

 

Its a bit like primary school - when you look back - it'll be the best time of your life

[gibbo_ap]

having only just moved into my 1st place 2 1/2months ago i know the feeling. i got used to it quite quick tho. just the depressing ironing etc, but there are the upsides to think of.....pizza when ever you want, gf to stay over, pizza, crates of ale, pizza errrr

 

the downsides are my house mate who insists on wearing shoes inside to the point where i was on my hands and knees last night scrubbing it up

[ninjabeaver]

When myself and my now wife moved out of our parents homes about 10 years ago I loved it. The other half did not. Took her another three months to leave...... well, she was forced out by her mum and dad. It takes time to settle down and get into a new routine. Have a few friends around for a Singstar or Guitar Hero night, watch a film etc. It all comes together over time.

[sidewinder]

The only time I disliked living away was on the odd Saturday night when no-one wanted to go out, it did get a bit lonely (i lived with a friend but his girlfriend was always round then), so much so that on occasion i'd actually go round my parents for the evening! How sad is that

 

It is hard, especially knowing you have to do all the cleaning, cooking, ironing, it can feel a bit daunting but after a few weeks when you get into a routine it'll be much easier and there'll be more time to have fun

 

Favourite freedom of mine is being able to cook whatever I want. At home I get moaned at for hogging the kitchen if I take too long, but away I could spend all night making a curry if I wanted to

[Little-Miss]

I moved out from my parents 3 years ago. My parents bought my stuff over and then they were gone. I stood and cried lol!!

 

It does get better. Get some mates round....

[pete]

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/stove_ownership.png

 

Wait until the house makes wierd noises at night and you have to decide whether that's a) normal or b) a sign of Impending Doom that you have to investigate

[RabbieBurns]

I moved out the day I finished school, went to australia for a year then came back and went to uni for 6 years.. It just kinda flowed there was no real 'Move' as I still had my room back home although this turned into an office more and more over the years.. Used to pop home for a Sunday dinner once a month or so... After uni I couldnt afford the council tax on my flat and had to move back home again for 18 months.. that was harder than moving out!!

[sparkeh]

Sorry to hear you are feeling down.

As other people said its completely normal. I felt the same when I left home but to be honest after a short while of being the boss of your house you won't want to go back. In fact enjoy it because if you move a girlfriend in you won't ever be the boss again.

[BJG]

Common to feel down after moving house at any stage in life. Something hard-wired into the circuitry I think. You'll feel better soon.

[Guest Htech]

Wait until the house makes wierd noises at night and you have to decide whether that's a) normal or b) a sign of Impending Doom that you have to investigate

 

Oh my god, i watched Paranormal Activity whilst i was living on my own, i swear to god i didnt get any decent sleep for about two weeks.

 

i agree with everyone else, it gets pretty lonely, invite some friends round just dont let it become a doss house

[RingOfFlame]

Get a grip. You are 25!. Have a house party and enjoy you new found freedom!

[Hightower]

Really appreciate the comments, and good to know that it's not uncommon. All posts useful except one haha - take a guess which

[CHR1S]

Dude! Have fun and enjoy your Freedom! have your mates round! Have parties, rock band nights! films nights! eat cold pizza or a curry the next morning!

 

You got nothing too lose!

 

This....

 

Just add a few ladies in there and your all set

[sparkeh]

Oh my god, i watched Paranormal Activity whilst i was living on my own, i swear to god i didnt get any decent sleep for about two weeks.

 

Heh did the same with 'Ring', never been so scared in my life

[CHR1S]

Get a grip. You are 25!. Have a house party and enjoy you new found freedom!

 

Wow, im gonna have to agree with ROF (checks to see if hell just froze over.... nope... weird)

 

Enjoy your new house