mole Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 So I thought I'd order the misses something for valentines day - up popped serenata flowers with free guarenteed delivery for the 14th, great I thought - ordered some bits, found a discount voucher-even better - paid and then saw on the invoice it is going to delivered by.............Yodel Do i cancel or hope for the best?
witch Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Cancel and go with moonpig or similar - they have never let me down yet
Bradlys Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Get your money back if it isn't on the 14th and get moonpig as a backup xD
LosOjos Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 Personally, I'd cancel - Yodel are nothing but trouble. Why not pop to your local flower arrangers and have them sort it?
Arcath Posted February 12, 2014 Posted February 12, 2014 email the supplier and make sure that they put "DELIVER" in the special instructions to the courier... you might stand a chance then. 1
DSapseid Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I decided to use moonpig for the first time last year for flowers and they were awful!! Flowers didnt turn up till 5.30 and half of them were dead and the rest didnt look like they would see out the day. Needless to say interflora will be used from now on!!
DSapseid Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 People care about this one day? My new gf doesnt which saves me a fortune this year!! She hates roses and told me not to bother with a card as she will put it in the bin! Got her a nice bunch of tulips (her fav) and got us tickets to see Russell Howard at the end of March in Brighton
LosOjos Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 People care about this one day? I cook me, the missus and the daughter a nice meal but that's all - I do all the cooking anyway it's just that we have 3 courses instead of one! Refuse to buy in to the whole guilt trip that restaurants/jewelers/card shops try to put you on for one meaningless day.
Danp Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 People care about this one day? Yes, it's my daughter's birthday
ButterflyMoon Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 It is my granny's birthday too so yes I care about this day too lol
Garacesh Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Serenata were awful on both occasions I used them. I understand that they have a lot of flowers to deliver as they promise them on-the-day but the condition in which both mine arrived left much to be desired. And now they're using YODEL? Run. Run for the hills.
Iain.Faulkner Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 It's not really something we "celebrate" as such. I tend to go for a card and a small token gift but nothing over the top. This year though, I'm taking the wife away for the night to Worcester.......however we are taking the baby and step daughter as step daughter has a cheerleading competition on the Saturday.
Danp Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 It's not really something we "celebrate" as such. I tend to go for a card and a small token gift but nothing over the top. This year though, I'm taking the wife away for the night to Worcester.......however we are taking the baby and step daughter as step daughter has a cheerleading competition on the Saturday. Bring your boat then! The river in the centre of Worcester is at it's highest level at the moment.
AMLinington Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 LeBoyfriend and I were discussing our V-day plans and mutually agreed that going out for dinner was an expense (and calories) we couldn't afford so resolved to stay in and cook something nice then on Friday his father was rushed to hospital. By Saturday lunchtime he was dead. So I'm pretty sure my shell shocked Boyfriend won't even remember what day it is. Not that I mind over much. I just feel very very lonely - it's like my boyfriend isn't even here. Sharing a bed with me seems to irritate him and he keeps telling me to go and be elsewhere in the house - I have to get dressed in another room and creep about the house like I'm not even there. So V-day for us this year is going to be worse than usual. He's taken his fathers death extraordinarily badly and he's isolating himself from everyone. I'm one annoyed huff from moving into the guest room.
Garacesh Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 My condolences to you both, and I'm sorry it's hit him so hard. All I can suggest from similar situations of my own is stick with it, give him time, be patient. He'll open up when he feels capable of doing so. Assuming that he wasn't so distant before this and you weren't already feeling lonely, there's no reason to suggest you can't get back on track once he starts to grieve and come to terms with it. 1
Bradlys Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 LeBoyfriend and I were discussing our V-day plans and mutually agreed that going out for dinner was an expense (and calories) we couldn't afford so resolved to stay in and cook something nice then on Friday his father was rushed to hospital. By Saturday lunchtime he was dead. So I'm pretty sure my shell shocked Boyfriend won't even remember what day it is. Not that I mind over much. I just feel very very lonely - it's like my boyfriend isn't even here. Sharing a bed with me seems to irritate him and he keeps telling me to go and be elsewhere in the house - I have to get dressed in another room and creep about the house like I'm not even there. So V-day for us this year is going to be worse than usual. He's taken his fathers death extraordinarily badly and he's isolating himself from everyone. I'm one annoyed huff from moving into the guest room. Stay strong, times will be tough, I'm sure he's trying to cope. I do the same, when something hits me hard I completely block out my girlfriend (of 4 years). She's used to it now I think, keep being supportive and when the day comes he will leap into your arms Sorry your V-Day won't go well 1
AMLinington Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 (edited) My condolences to you both, and I'm sorry it's hit him so hard. All I can suggest from similar situations of my own is stick with it, give him time, be patient. He'll open up when he feels capable of doing so. Assuming that he wasn't so distant before this and you weren't already feeling lonely, there's no reason to suggest you can't get back on track once he starts to grieve and come to terms with it. No things were fine. We were trying for a baby. Funnily enough I just got a text from him apologizing for snapping at me this morning and for being so grumpy. I don't think it helps that the Coroner decided he wasn't happy with the circumstances of FIL's death so did an autopsy and discovered that he was riddled with tumors so he wants to hold an inquest to find out why it was missed when FIL was having regular X-rays and blood tests because of his asbestosis. It's all turning into a bit of a nightmare because I really think there is some negligence involved - FIL was having trouble eating back in November - he couldn't swallow, and the doctors just kept giving him antibiotics but nothing was helping and he wasn't eating. When he died he made concentration camp survivors look well fed - he was literally a walking Skeleton it was horrifying. I think they should have admitted him last year and put a nasogastric tube down so he could have been fed through the tube. What killed him was that the infections overwhelmed his system because he was too malnourished to fight it and it turned into pneumonia. Although the coroner has said COD was inconclusive. I keep thinking it's all been a big misunderstanding and they'll discover that he didn't die at all (which of course is ridiculous I know). The whole thing is so stressful. LeBoyfriend has taken it very very badly and I'm doing my best to support him and his family through this difficult time but he is actively pushing us all away. I know he needs space to grieve but it feels like a self-perpetuating cycle in that he pushes us all away to magnify his own feelings of grief and loneliness and guilt, then because he feels so terrible he pushes us further away. He needs to break the cycle on his own but he won't - it's almost like he's deliberately destroying himself. Sorry for unloading on here. I didn't mean to. It's just nice to be able to say some of the things I'm having to keep to myself. Edited February 13, 2014 by AMLinington
witch Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sorry to hear this but I understand LeBoyfriend's behaviour completely. I do the same - when my mum died mrwITch tried to comfort me but every time he hugged me I would pull away, take a deep breath and stop crying, and then leave the room. It is hard on you, I know, but you will just have to wait -he is probably still in shock anyway. You could write him a note and leave it where he will find it when you are not there - it might help. Does he have any siblings you could talk to? He might want to talk to them - reminiscing is a good way of coming to terms with these things 1
jimmy_2k Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 I hate to be personal on a forum like this but when I was 15 I had to say goodbye to my first crush on Valentines day because they were moving to a different country. Felt awkward at the time and I've never really been a fan of valentines day.
AMLinington Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Sorry to hear this but I understand LeBoyfriend's behaviour completely. I do the same - when my mum died mrwITch tried to comfort me but every time he hugged me I would pull away, take a deep breath and stop crying, and then leave the room. It is hard on you, I know, but you will just have to wait -he is probably still in shock anyway. You could write him a note and leave it where he will find it when you are not there - it might help. Does he have any siblings you could talk to? He might want to talk to them - reminiscing is a good way of coming to terms with these things Yes, his older brother (surprisingly) is taking it reasonably well. BIL has always been the least strong of the two brothers. LeBoyfriend has always been the one that has been there for his mum and dad when they needed him. It was such a harrowing experience though - I was with them all at the hospital and we watched FIL die - it was horrible but I don't feel as though I have any right to be upset or affected. My own family have been very supportive and my parents and sister came round and stayed with me while LeBoyfriend was staying with his mum for the first couple of days. I've spoken to BIL and MIL and they are both as helpless as I am to help LeBoyfriend. MIL is bearing up well under the circumstances but even she can't reach him. The situation with the coroner REALLY hasn't helped at all - it's just made him worse because now he's angry at the doctors on top of all that grief. His company employ a cognitive behavioural therapist and he's reached out to him for support and has been referred to a company-funded counselling service (which is brilliant - I was so relieved to hear that he'd asked for help when I got home yesterday), I guess I just feel a bit useless when he'd rather see someone else than share the burden with his life partner because I can't do anything for him. It's very hard to watch from my position at arms length.
elsiegee40 Posted February 13, 2014 Posted February 13, 2014 Yes, it's my daughter's birthday It is my granny's birthday too so yes I care about this day too lol it's my birthday too, so yes I care I'll join the club of the people who have their birthday on the next worst day to Christmas. I am cooking my own 50th birthday dinner tomorrow because going out on the day is always too expensive with a limited menu and very pink! Mr gee40 and I exchange cards for Valentine's Day and celebrate my birthday on the nearest weekend.
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