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[RingOfFlame]

I was just following on from a comment made by sippo. You do not agree and that is fine hunny. Although I find it hard to believe that you have never ever shouted are your children when having to discipline them?

 

Would you have been happy to have the authorities come into your home and question your parenting? I very much doubt you would.

[mossj]

It's also important to note, that if you suspect something and don't report it (and the courts can prove it) then you yourself are comiting an offence...

 

Also you don't get to know if you were right or wrong... It's simply fill in a report and thats that from your POV.

[dwhyte85]

@RingOfFlame

 

I think the issue is that what-if the situation is bad, like you've said several times nobody knows what is going on... but better to be safe than sorry?

[witch]

I was just following on from a comment made by sippo. You do not agree and that is fine hunny. Although I find it hard to believe that you have never ever shouted are your children when having to discipline them?

 

Would you have been happy to have the authorities come into your home and question your parenting? I very much doubt you would.

 

I was just pointing out that making a judgement wasn't what we were asked to do.

Yes, of course I have shouted at my children (not that you know me so how you can make a judgement like that, I don't know - NOR whether I would be happy to talk to the authorities about my parenting skills), but I am SURE that the OP isn't talking about a bit of shouting.

 

I say again, that's why I recommended the NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children - a charity, NOT connected to the authorities - perhaps you didn't realise that)

 

Quite honestly, I would rather that 100 innocent parents were questioned by the NSPCC than ONE child was left to suffer.

 

 

No need for patronising remarks BTW - I wasn't asking for your approval

[localzuk]

Its quite a simple situation really. If you suspect something may be wrong, report it. The authorities know what they need to do. They may already be working on the case, and need more evidence of things being bad.

 

If you report it to the NSPCC or the child services people, it will be taken seriously and checked out. This doesn't mean the police will suddenly go and take that child away. What is more likely is they'll contact the school of that child and see if anything else has been noticed etc... maybe go and have a chat with the child and the parents.

 

There is a difference between interfering and doing what's best for the child's welfare.

 

But then, in the USA, the culture is very different when it comes to governments getting involved in citizens lives. We accept it as a normal part of life over here, most Americans seem to think it shouldn't happen.

 

An example of a similar situation - you see what you think is a crime being committed. You don't then think 'what if i'm wrong, if they get arrested and go to court then get found not guilty, i'll have done the wrong thing if I report it!", no, you call the police and tell them. Giving your witness statement and let them determine if it is worthy of investigation and prosecution.

Edited February 8, 2010 by localzuk

[RingOfFlame]

Yes, of course I have shouted at my children (not that you know me so how you can make a judgement like that, I don't know - NOR whether I would be happy to talk to the authorities about my parenting skills), but I am SURE that the OP isn't talking about a bit of shouting.

 

You are right I do not know you, I was just making a statement but now by your own admission should you be investigated? Of course you shouldn't. And how can you be sure the OP is not talking about a bit of shouting?

 

This is by the by. As you said the OP was asking about 'who' to contact and not 'if he should' contact someone. So I am going to end it there and lets get back on topic.