The Epson EMP-S4 features 'instant power off' which means that it should be able to fairly saely turned off instantly via a timer switch (though please verify before trying!), also this model features a USB port which allows the use of ESC/VP21 commands to 'remotely', amongst other things, turn the projector off.
A little software utility I have wrote enables at set times for a messge to be displayed to the user to gently remind them to turn the projector off; I have also considered the possibility of writing a screen saver utility that would utilise the ESC/VP21 commands to automatically shutdown the projectors during extended 'non-use' periods.