I woke up this morning, got to work, saw my big desk calendar and had a mild panic attack, I'm getting married in exactly 1 month...everything started running through my head at 100mph, will it all be ready in time? Today may not be very productive in the way of IT work.
A month? Loads of time. I organised my wedding day from scratch in 6 weeks. Venue, food, invites, clothes. Very long story, we had been engaged for 18 months mind.
In the back of my mind, i know everything has been dealt with...i think its just because the time is really short now....just had a phone call from the tailors, suits will be ready for final fitting on 21st :)
Make a list. Everything looks better after making a list.
Work out what's really important - usually a short list. Mine was me, my dearly beloved, licence and registrar, invitations, something to eat, something to drink, rings. Pretty much everything else is a nice to have - not that there's nothing else that's worth having, but as far as I was concerned, the important bit was that I was getting married and the people I wanted were able to be there. You expect to have a good time and so do the other people coming - so the rest can take care of itself. IMHO the more detailed the plans, the more scope there is for something to go wrong.
Congratulations and enjoy the day :D
As long as you make sure there is enough alcohol at the reception I can't see what else you have to worry about ;)
argh! got to write a speech! just thought of that one
The pressure is mounting up... 1 month is nothing... you won't even have time to count the days it'll pass by that fast...
What will you have done by then? More importantly, what will you have MISSED out? Will everything go according to plan?
What if something goes wrong? What if the bride is late? What if she doesn't arrive due to some problems? (god forbid) What if you're late and everyone is left wondering where you are? What if... exactly.... what if...
The stress is mounting my friend, and it's going to get WORSE and WORSE. SAND IN THE HOURGLASS IS RUNNING OUT!
Well that was really helpful...thanks @Sunnyknight
About the speech...does anyone know what kind of stuff i need to put into it?
Ignore him :)
Originally Posted by HaleStorm
As for your speech - it is on behalf of you and your partner unless they are making their own speech!- at the very least you can just thank the people who helped you sort out the day - eg your parents, the in-laws etc. Thank the best man, ushers and toast the bridesmaids. Lastly thank your lovely partner for making your life a happy one and maybe share a story or two about how you met? You can put jokes in etc but if you aren't comfortable with it, don't!
See here: Groom Example Wedding Speeches
My son-in-law made a point of mentioning the curious affliction his best man had, which forced him to make up embarrassing stories when in stressful situations. Cue the best man ripping up half his speech :)
Originally Posted by HaleStorm
Everyone is telling you how it's going to be all peachy etc etc. I hope that it is too, but you have to look at the darker side and have a contingency plan. Everything goes well, brilliant. If it doesn't, you'll thank me for making you think about it 100 times over and prepare.
To this date, I've only known ONE wedding go perfect. That's out of a good 400 - 500. That was because it was planned down to the hair. Just make sure everything is how you want it.
Think about it, not trying to put you down, just trying to keep you thinking.
As for speeches, how about the first time you met? first meal? first movie? funny moments? friends? family? trips? Keep it short though. No one likes a zillion hour speech.
Thank you @witch and @clareq
I like that idea @clareq, as some of the stories my best man has are pretty embarassing
Mines in over 3 months and I worry/panic about it!
I'm sure everything will go fine, I know with mine I would be happy no matter what, as long as we are together, She on the other hand... would put most Disney princesses to shame if she could..
Just remember at the end of the day its about the two of you, if you are both happy then that is all that matters in the end.
Good luck and Congratulations!