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I'm 20 years of age, going 21, currently employed part time within a retail company nearing the end of ...
13th September 2013, 12:19 AM #1
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Need immediate help!
I'm 20 years of age, going 21, currently employed part time within a retail company nearing the end of my probation period, i've got a wonderful oppurtunity to volunteer with the metropolitan police that I will be taking the next step to ensuring tomorrow, which will be my first assessment day, managed to speak with my manager and get her to understand that I look to get my hours confined to the weekend so that I will be left with time during the week to dedicate toward the police courses.
My problem is where I am currently living, at home, i'm currently being forced to share a room with my little sister whos aged 14, the room I used to have as my own is now being rented out to an international exchange student, the £50 a month for which I am contributing now isn't enough for my parents, despite the fact that I hardly use any resources in the house, despite the fact that i'm hardly ever here while trying to persue self development and a first step into a career that I can progress within. I now hardly eat here, with my dad having placed a lock on the kitchen door threatening that soon I will not be able to eat anything, they keep demanding more money out of me now that I am working part time. They argue constantly over the smallest things in the world, my fathers a gambling addict which causes problems within the house financially and psychologically. Its toxic, I can't go a day in here without having to endure stressful situations that just set my mind back from being productive and advancing forward.
I am looking for advice, I want to move out, the only financial commitment I currently have is paying off the remainder for a new laptop I purchased which has £540 left that has to be paid which initially totaled at £600. The only things I need and am looking for are the essentials, food, water, a bed, internet connection, bathroom and toilet.
I have never lived on my own before so whats the best way to go about finding an accommodation that provides these at an affordable cost and still allow me to make career progression?
13th September 2013, 05:07 AM #2
Not sure why you have posted this on Edugeek. - it's an IT Forum? However, one thing immediately springs to mind and that's the fact you shouldn't be sharing a room with your sister. If I were you and I wanted to stay at home I'd be talking to Social Services but on the other hand can see that doing so wouldn't be a good step for securing a lasting future relationship with your dad. Seek advice from Citizens Advice would probably be a good first step.
13th September 2013, 09:36 AM #3
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Sorry about that, the situation has me rather frantic at the moment and edugeek from my own personal experiences and knowledge has a community that I trust alot. Thank you for the advice, i'll be looking at how to contact the citizens advice.
13th September 2013, 09:41 AM #4
Pay off your laptop , and then seek a room to rent else where . That sort of house does not seem a nice place to live . If you was to rent a flat i probably would even be inclined to take your sister with you as the house hold you describe does seem very toxic .
13th September 2013, 09:48 AM #5
You would probably be better off initially going into a house share situation as it would be cheaper. You can re-assess the accommodation situation when you have a full time job.
13th September 2013, 09:51 AM #6
Most likely a very slim chance, but I recall a friend in London in a bit of a similar situation (needed very, very cheap digs and was happy to live on his own). he heard about a developer that was converting a huge abandoned building (a old hospital or college I believe) into posh flats. It was taking them a very long time to progress the build so they fixed up a small number of the new flats, furnished them with the basics and rented them out cheap. Their idea was that it will give the impression that the building is not vacant and allowed them to cut costs on security while making a bit of cash, kid of a bit like a house sitter really. He said they never once had any trouble while he lived there and it was the cheapest accommodation he had ever had in London. I think he was charged about £50 a week but he said its becoming popular practice in bigger towns/cities with large developments. I'd assume there is a web sit service set up to advertise such places? It could be worth looking in your area to see if there is anything like this available. Like I said though, could be a long shot.
13th September 2013, 10:10 AM #7
House Guardians are becoming more and more popular. A google search will, I'm sure, yield tons of info.
I was just in the situation of needing somewhere else to live and fast. I signed up at SPARE ROOM for flatshare, house share, flat share & rooms for rent. It's a free service, simply put up a profile of yourself, what you're looking for,and where, a budget and go from there. I was sorted in just over a week and if nothing else it will give you an idea as to what you're going to need to pay for the area you want to live.
You can also do a search and it will update the search daily and email you with new finds.
13th September 2013, 10:34 AM #8
For a start, I'm pretty sure it's illegal for a male sibling to share with a female sibling past the age of 6. Don't quote me on that though. As she is 14 and you are 21 this is beyond unacceptable. As you are 21, there will be nothing social services will do for you (although they could help your sister) so I suggest speaking to the local housing authority/council housing department although @HarryMonkey has posted something that is arguably better, although it is private sector renting - you might find having local authority backing would be better for you. You might even qualify for housing benefit - you need to speak to them and ask.
Originally Posted by NathanielJobHunter
If your parents are locking the kitchen against you, they are, sadly, within their rights as you are 21 and they are no longer responsible for your wellbeing - do they still feed your sister? It is sad that you have such a poor relationship with your parents and that they have such a terrible attitude towards their children, but really, the best you can do is put some distance between yourself and them by moving out - it doesn't sound like you'll miss out on a lot tbh.
In terms of money, you will need to seriously consider leaving your retail job - retail pays pittance. I suggest looking for evening and weekend work - it will be hard for the time you're doing the police courses and you'll be tired, but surely it is better than the current situation?
You could work evening shifts 4 or 5 nights a week and depending on the job, you might not even have to work weekends.
Edited to add:
Essentially the above pretty much says that your situation constitutes overcrowding. There is the suggestion of penalties applicable to the homeowners but I don't know who would enforce that.
Originally Posted by http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1985/68 section 325 onwards
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