elsiegee40 (26th June 2013)
Hell's teeth!! My sprog is 26, still lives at home, and from what I've read on here is getting off very lightly indeed...but seriously, we don't want to make a profit out of her, so what we charge for rent is all inclusive and covers the extras we pay out for because she's at home.
I confronted 50 badly, but came out the other side...but now I realise that I wasn't disturbed about my own age, it was the age of my family and the knowledge that I'd be losing them from my life too soon...
elsiegee40 (26th June 2013)
Realising that you are now the older generation in the grim reaper's firing line is pretty major.
My 'youngsters' are 30 and 33 and living away from home so I don't see them that often. But, I am completely comfortable with the fact that I am 56 this year. Nothing to prove to anyone and hoping to grow old disgracefully, along the lines of the Jenny Joseph poem 'Warning' (look it up if you don't know it!)?
I don't feel any older than I did 20 years ago. It's just that things hurt a bit more now and I don't move about as easily as I once did. I work in the Primary school that my children attended, alongside a teacher who was in my daughter's class (now that makes me feel old!)
I, for one, enjoy being 'old' and can't wait to retire and spend my days gardening! (and wearing purple with a red hat that doesn't go and spending my pension on brandy...)
Last edited by GeeHubb; 26th June 2013 at 09:17 PM.
I'm 36, and I can't say as a rule that I feel old. Physically, I'm shot. Joint wear wise, I expect I'm a good deal older. However, as "me", I feel comfortable with things. Yes, 2 kids will make a difference..the comment about "vietnam vet" made me chuckle..it's true. We've reached "2 children, mortgage, 2 cars, 3 cats, 3 guinea pigs, 1 rabbit" stage...and yes, in my more sombre moments I dwell on the fact that I'm now a "responsible adult".
Then I file it under "to be considered later", and go and get the kids from nursery with some AC/DC on, and drive home with one doing air guitar and shouting "give it welly, dad!". I let my DD (3.5) sit on my lap and steer the car round car parks (automatic), I have great fun doing donuts on loose gravel parks with the kids in the car, and playing the "let DD be my satnav" game.."where should we go now?".."THAT way.". Good fun..it's led me to some interesting places.
My missus just rolls her eyes and calls me a child. My car, my rules.
I'm growing old, but I shall do so DISgracefully, and enjoy it. As to retirement and gardening, I'm mornings only anyway, so my PMs are spent in the garden with the kids now!
I am fast approaching the big 60! Inside though am 27 and still full of mischief at times. By the time you get to this age as others have said you may have lost parents or siblings etc. There are two ways to deal with this, have a meltdown cause we are now of the generation who will most likely fade off this mortal coil OR you grab everyday by the neck and live in the moment. All we have is right now so I try my best to make it count!
Excellent sentiments ButterflyMoon. No point in regretting things you didn't get to do when the time comes!
I'm 27, nearly 28 and just got back from Ibiza 18-30's (it was the cheapest deal!) and that made me feel slightly old!
Other ways I feel old is playing Football on a Saturday afternoon, last thing you want to see is a team full of 18, fit, fast lil whipper snappers!!
As a "retired" slacker - I've just joined U3A - and now I'm the youngest at any gathering by quite a margin - great!
I have two written things on my wall that I look at often:
Footfalls echo in the memory
Down the passage we did not take
Towards the door we never opened
and, part of a different longer piece which I focus on is:
...To put to rout all that was not life; and not, when I had come to die, discover that I had not lived.
When I am down, I look at these and find them inspiring.
As a recently 'qualified' 60+ Grandparent I can tell you it gives you a new lease on life having a grandchild. My grand-daughter was born in February this year in the midst of a whole series of wider family health misfortunes & she is the little ray of sunshine that makes life worth living Seeing her develop week by week is a joy to behold.
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