Christmas can be difficult. Several of you have mentioned present disappointment.
Mr gee40 and I have been in each other's company for so long that 'Christmas presents' have become purchasing something that we both want that's low on the priority list compared with other things. This year it's a new desktop PC.... and upgrading the broadband to fibre. Not essential, but we want it. The flat screen tv was last year. It makes us both happy.
I realise that not all families have such strong bonds as my immediate family. But we do enjoy the time we have together.
Christmas to me is a few days off when we can enjoy ourselves. We eat well, go out for long walks regardless of the weather, and actually relax for a few days at home. Duty visits to in-laws are borne with good grace and we're ready to start the new year.
With the unexpected death of a cousin last new year's eve, this year isn't going to be easy for us, but it is what we each choose to make of it.
Christmas is what YOU choose to make of it. Presents, crackers and 24/7 family may not be your thing. Develop you own tradition!
Our Christmas & New Year period isn't complete without:
- Carols in the square in Hadlow on Christmas Eve
- The Big Game ((Quins v whoever) at Twickenham
- A panto ( a cheapy in Maidstone or Southborough) not the big name ones
- a walk round any or all of Bedgbury Pinetum, Hayesden, Leeds Castle
- Roast turkey & trimmings on Christmas Day
But that's us. Do what make YOU and your immediate family happy. It might involve putting your foot down with in-laws to get time to yourselves (we had to!), but don't just do things because that's what you're expected to do. Make it YOUR time of year.
Our Christmas is fairly low key.
Musts include the children telling me they will help with the tree decorating and then sloping off after 15 minutes
The big discussion about who is having what for Christmas dinner - with two veggies, one beef hater, one turkey lover and a true carnivore, that can take a long time!
The annual plea for everyone to go for a walk after Christmas dinner and the summary rejection by the three not-teens-anymore.
The visit to the in-laws
The visit from the sister on Christmas Eve (a difficult time as we lost our mum on Christmas Eve two years ago) but a family tradition we are determined not to let go
Presents are just a bit of fun in our house. I don't expect anything and am not disappointed. I appreciate the thought people have put into things. mrwITch and I do try to find something unexpected for each other - he is almost impossible to buy for and I am not much better!
@elsigee40 - if your children still attend carol concerts and go for long walks with you - you're a better parent than me!
Last edited by witch; 24th November 2012 at 11:25 PM.
I'm not really too bothered about Xmas. I have myself a tree - its 1 foot tall and has 12 lights on it. That's about as far as I go really. I expect my Xmas dinner this year will be Macaroni & Cheese.
Presents don't really interest me - I don't want much. For my birthday when people wanted to know what I wanted, I said slippers. This Xmas, I want some new socks and a duvet cover. That's about it! I'd much prefer money was spent on things that they themselves need, or if they need nothing, donate it to charity.
My Xmas gift to myself this year will be a new book.
Gotta say, I do look forward to one thing though - watching the 2 Ronnies on TV. And Only Fools and Horses.
I love Xmas, all the family get together and have a good time. Presents are unimportant.
I can't wait
Hate it too. Thinking of running a script on Xmas day so I have to go in and deal with it
mattx (25th November 2012)
Never liked Christmas, birthdays, Easter, Guy Fawkes night or any other of these largely silly and hugely commercialised annual occasions. Now at the age of 60 they all come round far too quickly and it seems to be a constant escalator of one event or another.
All these occasions are a desperately sad and lonely occasion for far too many of our elderly an homeless and other unfortunates and an excuse for excess, greed and gluttony by many of those who by dint of luck, talent, skill, cunning or the silver spoon have too much.
Christmas is the best one, 2 weeks off. If your not enjoying it your doing it wrong. The best Christmas i had was 2010. First day off, thought i want a holiday, went the travel agents booked for spain and spent 27th to 3rd there was great.
I put my Tree up last night, i love the lights. Sounds like you need to stop doing what you do every year at christmas as your not enjoying it and do somthing else with your christmas holiday so in future you look forward to it.
witch... just different.
'Carols in the square' is half an hour of carol singing in the village square followed on Christmas Eve, whatever the weather, which we have done every year since they were born. It's as much a social occasion as anything. It's as much a part of our Christmas as opening an advent calendar. Turning out at 6.30pm marks the start of everyone having a few days off.
My kids won't let me do the tree now. It goes up the day after Grandma's birthday, December 15th. My job is to test the lights (I'm in IT, it's got a plug... )
As for walks... we've always done them, not just at Christmas. Even teenage son can be prised away from his Xbox if there's promise of a pub lunch or hot chocolate and cake somewhere along the line!
elsiegee40 (25th November 2012)
@elsiegee40 - we always went for walks when they were younger but now it is difficult - and due to the amount of food around at Christmas, the food bribe, which I agree, used to work well when they were younger, doesnt work anymore sadly
Last week one of the ladies from Finance had a singing, dancing snowman delivered. I grimaced that it wasn't even December yet. I return a laptop to Science only to come back to my desk and what do I find?
12" sparkly pink christmas tree on my desk.
Well, two can play at that game. I have sticky labels! So I grab the nearest one, and draw a face (similar to ¬.¬) on it and stick it right where the star ought to be.
I think I may now be at war with Finance.. I must think of more retaliations.
As for my home, I never bother decorating or getting into 'the christmas spirit'. I'm very much bah-humbug. I don't buy presents for my family and they know it (granted, it's because I don't have the spare cash for it, they understand) and I'll have the christmas meal just to appease my mother/grandmother. If they didn't care, I honestly don't think I'd bother with any of it.
make Christmas work for you... If you don't want to celebrate, treat it as some time off.
I had a pretty rough time a couple of years ago and Christmas wasn't a whole load of chuckles, but it was time off, and an opportunity to catch up with some friends who don't celebrate Christmas, and to get out and walk... The further I got away I got from people, the better I felt. I was thoroughly refreshed after a week walking on Dartmoor. Being high up on Dartmoor on my own and watching everyone in Plymouth celebrating new years with fireworks, and not in the slightest feeling like I was missing out was excellent.
Le Edit... I forgot to mention that I share my office with two Jehovah's witnesses... So the office is a mercifully Christmas free zone too. They have their uses!
Last edited by Oaktech; 26th November 2012 at 05:19 PM.
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Dont you get any enjoyment from the lads? They must love christmas?
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